Cheating In Relationships

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    Gloomy Mushroom

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    How do you feel about cheaters in relationships? Any experiences and stories welcomed.
     
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    I've been cheated on and finding out made me feel fucking terrible
     
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    /thread.
     
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    I feel if you have trouble being loyal to someone you shouldn't be in a relationship with said person. True relationships are where both people are madly in love with each other, would do anything possible for their lover, and would never dream of hurting them or doing things behind their back. It's a simple concept.

    That's why I've never stayed with people who have cheated on me, because I feel...if you're a cheat then you really don't love me that much in the first place.
     
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    I've been cheated on a couple times in high school. Neither relationship was serious obviously since it was high school lol, but I'm pretty sure those experiences have kept me from getting into a serious relationship since then. It hurt like hell. I'm also pretty sure those experiences don't make me feel any remorse when I fool around with girls I know are in relationships. Although in the few relationships I've been in since then, I have no problem at all being loyal. Probably just because they were nymphos, though. Who knows. I just need to find the right girl that makes me feel like I want to be with her more than I want to be single and playing the field with no chance of getting hurt.
     
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    Yeah. If you feel the need to see other people and you aren't in an open relationship or anything like that, nine times out of ten there's probably no reason why you can't just break up with the person you're actually with.
     
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    This.

    Don't see other people if you're not in an open relationship. A person should break up with the person if they are considering cheating on, because if you think you are going to protect the person from being hurt, cheating on them is going to hurt a lot worse than just breaking it off. I've been through this many times and the best thing to do is to be honest with your partner.

    If it's not working, and there's a consideration of cheating on either side, break it off, it's not worth the time.
     
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    I think open relationships should be talked about more openly, because I think trying to get people to stick to one person over large amount of time, even a lifetime, is asking way too much of people in my opinion. It goes against our basic instincts. It may not be right for everyone but being monogamous is really hard
     
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    So, what, nobody on this forum has ever been the cheater instead of the one being cheated on? I find that really hard to believe.
     
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    The purpose of the thread is not to find out who has cheated, but what people's thoughts on cheating are.
     
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    It's more fun to get cheated on obviously.
     
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    I had a 'first love' girlfriend in high school for the better part of two years. I never cheated on her or even watch porn and I know she was faithful to me. But after we broke up a second time and I wouldn't get back with her before college, she got another boyfriend, because she's not very independent. She moved in with him, but he went on business trips a lot. Soo I went to see her and she cheated on him with me and then she started stayin with me when he was away.n She said she never had sex with this dude though, but me and her were. Thing is we weren't just doin stuff and I was in love with her. So they ended up breaking up, then had sex (for the first time according to her) and she never told her ex anything about us, and we started bein on and off again this past summer. Anyway I start hearing stuff and things start adding up, and it turns out she was messing with other dude(s). So she's a whore lolz...

    Sorry if that story doesnt make a lot of since, just be venting. I didn't technically get cheated on but I played with fire and got burned.

    Anddd never have cheated on anyone, never will. If they cheat on you even once, I suggest dump them.
     
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    I tend to avoid relationships, so I don't really know what it's like to be cheated on or cheat on someone else, not that I would dare cheat on someone.
     
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    I haven't been in a relationship yet, but it seems obvious to me that if you actually have the urge to cheat on your girlfriend/boyfriend, she/he isn't for you.
     
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    Lol. That sounds a lot like my first girlfriend and me. Almost the exact same thing. The thing I've learned is that women that are willing to cheat on their boyfriends with you are very possibly doing more than one guy on the side. Plus if you ever start dating you can be damn sure she can cheat on you just like she cheated on her ex. I've been pretty sure I was one of at least two dudes this one chick was doing on the side, but I didn't let it bother me. It's not like I'm hooking up with her because I like her as a person lol.

    You'd think this is common sense, but most people don't think that way. If you're thinking of cheating on your girlfriend, just break up with her. And if she's too good in bed to break up with, there should be no reason to cheat on her.
     
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    I don't get the sense of this thread. How could anyone say cheating would be a good thing? Don't be in a relationship if you're not interested in being loyal to your partner. Eh.
     
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    No one is implying that at all. Not even in the slightest. The op was asking if you've ever been cheated on, not the other way around.
     
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    sounded more like "what do you think about cheating? good or bad?" to me.
     
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    I felt the same way Anne.

    It does seem like a good/bad type question to me because if it was a "Have you ever been cheated on?" thread then, why was that question not asked?
     
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    It sounded more like OP wanted input on our experiences so she can better know how to deal with a situation in her life.
     

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