What do you think about divorce? I think if people swear that marriage is forever, they should not divorce.
then what if a husband turns out to be abusive? :wth: i dont see anything wrong with getting a divorce. you shouldnt have to be married to someone you cannot stand. just because someone is a certain way before you got married, does not mean they will stay that way.
Amen! Although I believe all of that, I also think that some people get a divorce just to get half of the other person's stuff. People like that make me sick...if you have a good reason, then divorce is OK...if you're just greedy, then you make me sick...
Amen! Although I believe all of that, I also think that some people get a divorce just to get half of the other person's stuff. People like that make me sick...if you have a good reason, then divorce is OK...if you're just greedy, then you make me sick... [/b][/quote] yeah i was thinking that exact same thing except like marrying rich old people and waiting until they die to get their money. *cough*annanicolesmith*cough*
Sometimes divorcing is the only option, but no matter wich reason, the kids are always the victims......
i am not a christian or anything like that, but i believe that marriage is a huge deal, most people go through a lot to make sure that they can be married, and i don't understand how they can just throw that away. i guess that i am going through a lot right now with all that and my opinion is influenced, but i still think that marriage is something that cannot just be broken, because it is sacred.
Divorce is fine in my books. I think it is a horrible thing to go through but it is for the best most of the time. You don't want to live with someone who you really cannot stand the sight of for any longer. That is when kids will begin to get involved and be hurt with all the arguments in the house. It's all very well to say 'Stay together for the kids' but it's not always best. No one can ever find 'the one' straight away and if they can then they are lucky.
In some case, a divorce in a marriage is inevitable. I believe divorces can be a positive. Prolonging the continious quarelling between parents begins to take a toll on their children (if any) My parents are still happily together after 17 years, but I can honestly say the majority of my friend's parents can't say the same. :wth:
I think people should only get divorced if they have an abusive spouse or they're in an unhappy marriage. Divorcing someone for their money or property is heartless...marriage isn't all about convenience.
I'm in the middle of this. Divorcing is good and sometimes the only option is some cases. Then in other cases there was really no reason for the divorce or getting married in the first place. My Aunt got married and divorced him for drinking to much (but he was never abusive), then got married to another man, ending up having an affair, divorced him and got married to another man who is a heavy drinker. I swear to god she uses marriage as a game.
Divorces are wrong.. I think if people really love eachother they wouldnt need to fight or end up getting divorces . If they cant stand eachother , its their fault for not realizing how their husband or wife acts in the first place before marrying them. Thats why its not always good to rush into marriage.. And it pisses me off when kids have to be the ones in the middle of it.
Yes they could. Divorce came about in the time of King Henry VIII, that wasn't 30 years ago...obviously. Its just more common these days and its more excepted.
I don't think divorce is a bad thing. Better to get divorced then live in an unhappy relationship. Someone said that if you truely loved someone then you wouldn't fight and get in a divorce--but it really isn't that simple. I mean, think about it. Do you really think that you'll only love one person in your life? People grow and change over time. Yes, a lot of them get married to young in my opinion, but they got married a hell of a lot younger 200 years ago then today, and yet we have more divorces now than then. My guess is that before divorce was socially acceptable people just stayed in unhappy marriages. Yes, it's horrible when people marry and divorce for money, yes it must be terrible for the kids to go through, but is it really better for them to see their parents bickering and unhappy? I'm not saying it's not a wonderful thing when people stay together (my parents have been together for close to 20 years I think, my grandparents on Mom's side over 50) but I don't think people who have to get into a divorce should be frowned apon.
I think that considering most people get married in their 20's and the average age is about 80 then thats about 60 years of marriage. And obviously the person that you married when you were 20 isn't going to be the same person when they are 80. I just think that if people thought about how much people will change and whther they can accept the changes than its not worth getting married. Also if more people didn't rush into marriages and get married for the wrong reasons then there woudln't be so many people getting divorces. I don't have a problem with divorce tho because if two people aren't happy together then it would be rather stupid them staying together..chances are it will end up gettign so bad its affecting people other than the couple. and as for " staying together for the kids" I think thats the worst idea of the lot.
I think what a lot of people do not realise when they decide to get married is how much their relationship is going to change.Most people have the notion that "a bit of paper does not change anything", and the reality is that piece of paper changes everything! The first thing it instantly changes are your expectations of each other, What i mean by this is: the things you expect of a boyfriend/girlfriend or the manner in which they act towards you (whether you have been together 10mths or 10yrs is irrelevant) is totally different from what you would expect off a spouse,and so for a lot of couples the problems begin virtually straight away, and it has been made far too easy to walk out of a marriage today than years ago when you had to try and give it a go for at least a year, and the first year of marriage is the worst!!!! I have now been divorced for eight years and i was married for one year and two days!!! and my parents have been together thirty four years, married for sixteen although they were nearly heading for divorce after only six months of marriage and they had already done eighteen years (strange how thin that line between love and hate actually is)
Exactly. My parents have just split up and are getting a divorce because my dad is an abusive alcoholic. If it is like that, then get a divorce. It's also not like they should stay together if they aren't happy with it.
I think the same, married couples are supposed to love each other 'til death separates them and be loyal to each other.
I think the same, married couples are supposed to love each other 'til death separates them and be loyal to each other. I mean, think about the rest of your life. Do you think you'll be the same person at 50 that you are at 20? I don't know about you, but I hope I'm not. I agree that people shouldn't rush into marriage, and should try to work out their troubles instead of divorcing, but...it's not that simple. [/b][/quote] Have you read the rest of the thread? What if the husband turns out to be abusive? Or what if two people who were really compatible from 20 - 30 suddenly find themselves not so attracted to each other's personalities at 35 or 40? How can you really forsee that?
i think there have been so many divorces that instead of "as long as you both shall live" its sometimes changed to "as long as you both shall love". i remembered watching a show and they said that :wth: