Got Something You Want To Let Out Part 2

Thanks for all of your concern and well wishes. Sleeping tonight will be hard, but knowing I have so many great friends on here wishing my friend the best will make the pain a little easier to handle.

I am not an overtly religious man, but I have seen what the power of hope and prayer can accomplish when put to good use, and I will be using your prayers to wish the best for my friend during what is most likely a very hard time for her and her family.

Again, there's always that possibility she'll come back negative and not have any cancer at all. That is the outcome we are hoping for here and lets all cross our fingers that she is healthy as can be tomorrow morning/afternoon.

 

I wish you and your friend the best of luck, Derek. My thoughts are with you.

 

You guys are incredibly amazing. I can't remember a time where you haven't been here for me, or gave me advice when I was down which is why I really think this community is so amazing. Some people can put the forums down, say we have our problems or that LPA has gone 'downhill' (I don't believe it), but when you take a look at the unity shown in this thread, it just goes to show how great this place is.

I should clarify that the person who is going through this cancer scare, is a former LPA member. One that was banned on her own merits but of whom I made up with last year and have since been very close friends with.

I'm not going to say who unless the results don't go in our favor, because I believe she would want her privacy otherwise. But this is someone who used to frequent these forums a lot, and due to some....disagreements...with forum members and staff, is now gone.

 

Sylar, write her and message her. I've met a lot of good friends recentely off of Myspace, and none of it would've been possible if I didn't have the courage to just add them and say hello, and then start messaging them to see if they write back. I was impressed to see that some of them not only accepted my add, but also wrote back and held a conversation with me. A few of them (my friend Steph who I went to the concert with being one of them), even have hung out with me after meeting me through Myspace.

I adopted a view a small while ago and that is this: Don't spend your time worrying about what other people think about you, or allow the negative comments of other people to bring you down. I don't know if 'being a bitch' was the right way to describe it, but instead you are just afraid of being rejected. You are a lot like I used to be in many ways, which is that you worry too much about someone not liking you, so instead of taking a chance, you don't do anything because you don't want to feel that doubt about yourself if the person is uninterested.

That's how I used to be, but now (just like you should be) I don't give a fuck. I know I'm a very nice guy, that I can be a good friend if treated fairly and that I have a lot of charm. I don't focus on whether I'm hot or not (although I try to take good care of myself), because I believe that if people are fair enough to add me back, and respond to my comments and give me a chance then they are good people. If someone doesn't write you back, or somehow feels they are 'above' you and too good to comment on you? Fuck them, they missed out and they aren't worth your time or friendship.

Keep it real Sylar. Don't fear rejection anymore, because by doing so you might end up declining to write a hottie that may be so like you in many ways. It's just not worth it to play the unconfident card. Women like confidence and if they are worth your time they should respond to your messages. I'm not telling you to go out, and think you are god's sole gift to woman. No, instead I'm telling you that you should learn to love yourself and not think that you are automatically someone that a girl would not want.

The lesson I told someone on here a few months ago, and still live by to this day is this:

"You cannot allow another person to love you, unless you learn to be confident and love yourself first".

Appreciate yourself, and don't fear a person because you feel they're higher than you. Just go out there, and make yourself known!
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*EDIT* @Andrea: I'm very happy to hear your life is looking up for you and that things are getting better between you and your dad. I'm a firm believer that life is too short, and hopefully that budding relationship will grow stronger with age. I wish you the best.

 

Perhaps you may wanna go out and try buying some new clothes or getting a awesome looking new hairstyle. You know, do some things to make you feel more happy about your appearance.

While it may be material and not really be the true answer to your problems, you'll be amazed at how easier it will be to talk to women if you are confident about the way you look. Like I said, self confidence is everything...and you can't spend your life fearing what other people may think about you, because that will only bring you down and help you to lose out on a good relationship.

Heck, if you ever need some advice or pointers feel free to message me and I'll try and help you out. Infact, PM me with your AOL/MSN if you wish. Keep your head up! You'll get yourself some sexy ladies soon.